I happened to chat with my friend today. It's been a while we have seen or talk to each and when she saw me online this morning, she was like "thank God you are online today, how long has it been and which hole did you crawl into that I did not even see your brake light all this while". Well I'm not that active on social media this day and I think some people are missing me there.
We talked about a lot of things you know about girls stuff before we jump to relationship matter. My friend is still a single lady and she is waiting for the love of her life that travelled out of the country for over a year now.
They have been in this relationship for like two years before this guy travelled last year and anytime I asked her about him she will just say leave my guy alone. Well I leave him alone as I was told, I never ask her about him untill she brought it up today.
Ever since the guy travelled, he has changed drastically and they hardly talk and when they talk and she tried to bring up any matter concerning their relationship he will change the topic and now she was asking for my advice.
I don't know how to advice her because I don't want to stir anything up so I just use my case as an example for her to pick her own from there.
I was once a fool for love, I tried hard for the relationship to work out because of my stupid love which turned to an obsession. The relationship was barely a year when this guy told me he was travel out of the state not out of the country ooo and he will be back in two weeks time.
Two weeks turned to a month, a month to two till it reach six months. Then the way we used to talk have changed, as time goes on he will not pick my calls nor return it and whenever he call back he will give an excuse that he was busy. If I asked him when he was coming back his answer was always very soon.
There was a day I got bored and I was looking for a movie to watch so I visited his house and I met his friend. We started gisting and I asked him about his friend but he never give me a straight answer so I decided to wave off and asked for his phone since he have some Korean movie on it and that is my favorite movie.
He left the phone with me to take his bath and when I was explore his phone for the movie, a WhatsApp message pop up and I opened it by mistake and it happens to be that my guy's message. I read through all their message and my world came crashed down. The guy I was waiting for doesn't even care about my feelings anymore because he already saw someone more beautiful and to top it all she's rich.
I closed back the message and I left the phone on the table and exit the building before he came back from the bathroom. I don't know what I was feeling at that moment maybe I should be happy that I found out the truth or be sad because I was deceived, I just don't know what to feel.
I felt the tightness in my heart and when I told my friend about it she asked me to let it out. I cried it all out that day and I decided to move on from him. I never call him again and if he call me we will just talk casually. What if he travel out of the country, what more should I be expecting thank God I know the truth on time, afterall I'm a poor girl who have nothing to offer to him.
I didn't say more than this to her, it is left to her to pick from my story and verify her status before it was too late. I don't know how to advice her because I didn't listen to any advice too when I was in that same situation. Life is more complicated when it comes to relationship matter.
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