Ugh, bad leaders are the reason I don't believe in office jobs anymore. People get to abuse their power by the "we are a family" statement. And I know there's a psychological effect in that phrase, but wow! I've seen too many people exploiting the willingness some others have to do work and cope with harsh situations.
About following the principles, I think yes, but would need some feedback from those I had lead over the years in different situations.
Totally agree on the fact that we are exposed to the idea of leadership in life. We can't escape it and if we do, well, it isn't pretty. It means one doesn't have to live of their terms. Tough call right there.