Feliz tarde hermosas damas de la comunidad, espero hayan tenido un delicioso almuerzo! bienvenidas a mi blog!
Quiero unirme a la iniciativa de esta semana, escrita por @joanstewart, donde se plantean varios temas relacionados con la mujer; yo hare mi entrada con el tema: "violencia de pareja", que realmente es algo que toca mi sensibilidad humana, debido a que en mi grupo de iglesia tenemos una hermana que esta atravesando por esta situación ; así, que entremos en materia:
Happy afternoon beautiful ladies of the community, I hope you had a delicious lunch! welcome to my blog!
I want to join this week's initiative, written by @joanstewart, where several issues related to women are raised; I will make my entry with the theme: "partner violence", which is really something that touches my human sensitivity, because in my church group we have a sister who is going through this situation; so, let's get into the subject:
La violencia contra la mujer, es definida por las Naciones Unidas; como "todo acto de violencia de género que resulte, o pueda tener como resultado un daño físico, sexual o psicológico para la mujer, ...", muchas veces tenemos la idea errada que violencia son solo los golpes o maltratos físicos, cuando a veces los peores maltratos son los verbales, que terminan afectando psicologicamente a la persona; por eso es muy normal escuchar mujeres decir: "el no me pega", pero si pudiéramos escuchar las expresiones de ese hombre hombre acerca de esa mujer, estoy segura que serian puras palabras hirientes y humillantes; algo así como: no sirves para nada, sin mi no eres nada, estas gorda, fulana es mejor que tu, cállate, entre muchas otras!
La Biblia dice que Dios durmió a Adan, y, le saco una costilla, y de ahí formo a Eva, o sea de su costado, no la saco de una pierna, ni mucho menos del pie; para que la pisotee; la saco del lado de su corazón, lo cual significa que la mujer debe ser Amada y protegida por el hombre; les comentaba en mi introducción que en el grupo de damas de mi iglesia, estamos ahorita afrontando una situación como esta, y, realmente ha sido difícil, porque ella, no se ha dejado ayudar; es una muchacha joven y bonita, el esposo es mucho mayor, pero como ella tiene problemas de obesidad, y sufre del corazón, tienen 3 hijos, si ella le habla de dejarlo, el comienza a decirle que se va a morir de hambre, que ella no sabe trabajar, que como va a mantener a esos niños; y, cosas por el estilo; entonces, ella cambia de opinion, y sigue con el; pero lo mas lamentable es que los niños están siendo muy afectados; ya no quieren que el llegue del trabajo para no tener que verlo, si ella sale con los niños a visitar a su familia o, a hacer una diligencia, cuando llegan a la casa, el les cierra la puerta, y los niños lloran para que la abra, así pasan hasta 2 horas, hasta que a el le de la gana de abrirles; ha sido difícil afrontar esta situación; porque ella no quiere denunciarlo, y, si en la iglesia decidimos hacerlo, y ella lo niega? como dicen por ahí vulgarmente: "en pelea de marido y mujer, un tercero sale sobrando"
Por ello, quiero aprovechar este escrito, para pedirles algunos consejos, sobre como actuar en este caso en particular! agradecida de antemano por su consejo!
Violence against women is defined by the United Nations; as "any act of gender violence that results, or may result in physical, sexual or psychological harm to women,...", we often have the mistaken idea that violence is only beatings or physical abuse, when Sometimes the worst abuse is verbal, which ends up psychologically affecting the person; That is why it is very normal to hear women say: "he doesn't hit me", but if we could hear the expressions of that man about that woman, I'm sure they would be pure hurtful and humiliating words; something like: you are useless, without me you are nothing, you are fat, so-and-so is better than you, shut up, among many others!
The Bible says that God put Adam to sleep, and took out a rib, and from there he formed Eve, that is, from his side, he did not take it out of one leg, much less of the foot; for him to trample on her; I take it out of the side of his heart, which means that the woman must be Loved and protected by the man; I told you in my introduction that in the women's group at my church, we are currently facing a situation like this, and it has really been difficult, because she has not allowed herself to be helped; She is a young and pretty girl, her husband is much older, but since she has obesity problems and a heart condition, they have 3 children. If she talks to him about leaving him, he begins to tell her that he is going to starve, that she doesn't know how to work, how is she going to support those children; and other things like that; then, she changes her mind, and continues with him; but the most unfortunate thing is that the children are being very affected; they no longer want him to come home from work so they don't have to see him, if she goes out with the children to visit her family or to run an errand, when they get home, he closes the door, and the children cry so that they Open it, so up to 2 hours go by, until he feels like opening it for them; It has been difficult to face this situation; because she doesn't want to denounce it, and if we in the church decide to do it, and she denies it? As they say there vulgarly: "in a fight between husband and wife, a third party is superfluous"
Therefore, I want to take advantage of this writing, to ask you for some advice, on how to act in this particular case! Thanks in advance for your advice!
Es cuestión de autoestima!
La autoestima, es el concepto que tengo de mi misma; y nada ni nadie debe influenciar en ello, no se trata de creerse la mejor, pero tampoco la peor, sino de reconocer nuestras capacidades y, nuestras debilidades; por supuesto, de aceptar los errores en pro de mejorar; en lo particular, pienso que, esta es la raíz del problema, una mujer que no se cree capaz de salir adelante sola, prefiere entonces ser maltratada; creo que es mejor sola que mal acompañada!
No seas acumuladora!
Hay un dicho que dice: " lo que no sirve se bota", para mi, no hay un dicho mas cierto que ese, en cuanto a las relaciones; si tu pareja no te sirve (cosa que no es tu culpa), porque empeñarse en mantenerla?, es igual que en casa, si algo se daña, tratamos de repararlo, pero, si no tiene repararlo; y lo dejamos en casa, lo que estamos haciendo es, ocupando espacios con cosas inservibles, y cuando nos damos cuenta, nos hemos convertidos en acumuladores!
Yo tuve la culpa
Esta es una frase muy común, en casos de abuso; se puede escuchar a la mujer decir: "el no tiene la culpa, yo lo provoque", debemos empezar por cambiar esa mentalidad y, entender que somos adultos y, responsables de nuestros actos, y que si tu pareja te maltrata es culpa de el, no tuya, porque tu no eres su esclava, eres su esposa; y, Dios manda a tratar a la mujer como a vaso mas frágil!
Un circulo vicioso que termina en tragedia!
En muchos casos el maltrato, termina en muerte de la victima, porque se vuelve un circulo vicioso, la mujer perdona, el hombre vuelve a maltratar, y, así, hasta que en algún momento se sale de control, y termina muerta; no digo que no se deba perdonar, porque el perdón libera, y Dios nos manda a perdonar; pero, perdonar, no significa volver con el, significa tener paz contigo misma, y, entender que lo que paso no fue tu culpa, y tener en cuenta que , si te pego una vez, lo va a volver a hacer!
A la mujer, ni con el pétalo de una rosa!
Gracias por tu visita!
Dios te bendiga!
It's a matter of self esteem!
Self-esteem is the concept I have of myself; and nothing and no one should influence it, it is not about believing yourself to be the best, but not the worst, but rather to recognize our abilities and our weaknesses; of course, to accept mistakes in order to improve; In particular, I think that this is the root of the problem, a woman who does not think she is capable of getting ahead on her own, prefers to be mistreated; I think it's better alone than in bad company!
Don't be a hoarder!
There is a saying that says: "what is useless is thrown away", for me, there is no more true saying than that, in terms of relationships; if your partner is not useful to you (which is not your fault), why bother to keep it? and we leave it at home, what we are doing is occupying spaces with useless things, and when we realize it, we have become hoarders!
It was my fault
This is a very common phrase, in cases of abuse; you can hear the woman say: "it's not his fault, I provoked him", we must start by changing that mentality and understand that we are adults and responsible for our actions, and that if your partner mistreats you it is his fault , not yours, because you are not his slave, you are his wife; And, God commands to treat women as a more fragile vessel!
A vicious circle that ends in tragedy!
In many cases, the abuse ends in the death of the victim, because it becomes a vicious circle, the woman forgives, the man mistreats again, and so on, until at some point it gets out of control, and she ends up dead; I am not saying that one should not forgive, because forgiveness frees, and God commands us to forgive; but, forgiving, does not mean going back with him, it means having peace with yourself, and understanding that what happened was not your fault, and keeping in mind that if I hit you once, he will do it again!
To the woman, not even with the petal of a rose!
Thank you for your visit!
God bless you!
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