"If being in love means suffering, we are loving too much"
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Hello my beautiful people, there is a book that completely changed my life, the way to take care of myself, to see myself and to relate to others, not only as a couple but in general, today I want to share with you some of the teachings that I learned From Robin Norwood's book “Women Who Love Too Much”, this book is obviously focused on women, but if you are a man and you are reading this, don't go because I am sure you have a lot of things to learn too and if you feel identified with some of what I say please leave me in the comments and with a vote to know that we are not alone in this.
First, when most internal conversations or with your friends are about him, his life, his thoughts, his projects.
Basically out of fear out of fear, of not being worthy, of not inspiring affection, of being alone, of being abandoned and ignored, rejected, destroyed, we give that obsessive love waiting for the other person to take care of our own fears, all our lives It revolves around giving love in order to receive it and that is the force that becomes the impulse for life and as this strategy obviously does not work, we become obsessed more and more and more.
This is literally quoted from the book "generally comes from a dysfunctional home that did not meet your emotional needs"; Since you received little affection in your childhood, try to satisfy that need by giving especially affected men or women who seem particularly needy, since you can never make your parents be those attentive and loving people, right now you are looking for people who are not either, see if you can change them in order to also control the situation.
Seek help first, this post can be the first step to seek help, you can also do it through books, a therapist, but this step connects you with the humility of understanding that you cannot do everything alone.
Sixth learn not to hook, not hooking means that when you want to react in the way you usually do, in the face of a conflict or a situation in which another person is reproaching you for something, do not react in a way that end the game, make it ok from your power but do not continue with that perpetuation of the conflict, at the beginning it will be a little difficult but later when you take the shot it will be easier.
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Let me know in the comments if you identify with all these things that I mentioned, if you are a woman or a person who loves too much, this is literally a summary of the most important things in this book because I feel like they completely changed the way I I see myself in relationships and I feel that suddenly I can also give you tools.