1️⃣ Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?
Hey ladies, it's good to be participating in this week's contest topics by @merit.ahama. These are well thought out topics for the ladies and I will be answering question one.
Have you ever been in a situation where it was difficult for you to fit in and connect with people? Have you ever changed schools or moved into a different city and everyone around you looks like aliens thrown from another planet? Connecting with people and building relationships can be very tough. Some people find it very tough to connect with people, while others do it with ease.
The importance of people in our lives cannot be overemphasized. We need friends in our lives. not just friends, but good friends. We need people who are ready to teach us and instill good things in us. That is why it is very important to build connections with people.
Nowadays, people find it difficult to build relationships. People sink into their beds, depressed and lonely, because they lack the ability to connect with others.
There are different reasons why it is hard for people to make real connections, even when almost everyone wants to make real connections.
PEOPLE WITH PURE INTENTIONS ARE HARD TO FIND
Gone are those days when everything was good and the world was a beautiful place. Everything was almost perfect, and people did things with ease. Gone are those days when people found help easily. Those days where you see people who are always ready to help are long gone. One of the reasons why it is hard to make real connections with people is that it is very difficult to find someone with real intentions, someone who is sincerely ready to make real and lasting connections. Yes, the truth is that almost everyone wants to make real connections, but it is hard to see people with real and pure intentions.
Yes, everyone wants to make real connections. They want to be happy, and connections bring happiness. But they are scared of bonding. They are scared of what they might get into or perhaps rejection
LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE
Another reason people struggle to connect with others is because of a lack of self-confidence. Different questions run through their minds: "What if I don't have enough to offer?" What if I don't do well? "What if I regret doing this and that?" They don't believe in themselves, so instead of pushing themselves out there and connecting with people, they lock up and bear the pain to themselves. I strongly believe in myself. I know my worth, and I know I'm very important. I know I'll always bring something to the table; I have a lot to offer, so I don't have a problem building healthy relationships. One of the best ways to get rid of this is to learn how to build your self-confidence by knowing your worth.
TRUST ISSUES
It is very difficult to trust people. Especially if you've had ugly experiences. It takes years to build, and it can take seconds to destroy. If you're the type of person who doesn't trust people even after they've made it very obvious that they are good, you'll probably find it hard to make healthy connections. Give people a chance. Make healthy connections with people!
These are my thoughts on the question and I will love to invite @glorydee and @princessbusayo to share their thoughts as well. Kindly click here to find #loh contest for the week.
