This week's @LadiesofHive - Contest # 173 are past my age but I will give my view point on them as I feel it's very important for a woman to be responsible for their life.
1️⃣ The month of love is still in the air. As a lady, what do you consider more: Careful decisions about whom to love, or the freedom to be spontaneous about it? Do you care more about present moments or future results of your decisions? Why?
~ 𝐀𝐍𝐃 / 𝐎𝐑 ~
2️⃣ Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
My bet will always be on security first and hence for that reason, I would not really go in for spontaneity in Love. Though, when I met my hubby for the first time, it was Love at first sight, but to be very honest, I already knew about his family background, they were not rich but they had stability. It's difficult to survive on Love and Air if stability is not there, then over a period of time the Love will be out of the window and there will only be problems.
As a couple how much we are aligned with each other is also important. In my case, we got married at a very early age and did not have finances of that sort that we could splurge on, but between us both of us were very clear in our head that we want to increase the standard of our living and make our lives better. This alignment with each other worked very well for us and though we did not have everything on day 1, gradually we did build up on life and started doing good for ourselves.
I firmly believe that Love is the basic of the relationship but one should not be blind in love. When we are in our teens, all these things happen due to our rebellious nature but gradually as we mature the reality of life hits us. Hence it's parent's responsibility to make their children understand these basics of life so that they are able to make right decisions for themselves and not get carried away in the world of fantasy.
Premarital sex is common and no one bothers about it these days, even the older generation has accepted this modern change of life. But having a child without being ready for it is not the right thing. The girl has to be responsible for herself to not land into any such situation. Still if it happens and then you realize that you do not have the right kind of in-laws to settle down on then what?
If the girl is matured enough to differentiate between the right and wrong and feels that whatever behavior is happening with her from her in-laws is not right and if the partner also does not support then it's best to walk out of that relationship.
It is easier said then done, before making this ultimate decision, all efforts need to be made to improve the relationship. Normally such cases will lead to a unhealthy relationship, because none of the party is prepared for it, nor the couple and nor the parents. When it happens it takes a great deal for everyone to first settle down with the change. In this period a lot of chaos will be experienced by everyone and the most impacted will be the girl, because everyone can put up their hands but the girl cannot do that because she is bearing the child.
Domestic violence of any sort should not be tolerated by any woman, be it in this case or any other case. Hence itis so much important to be cautious about what you are doing with your life in your teens and younger years. The glamour of the world will try to suck us in it, and again here it's the parents that play an important role in giving the right kind of sex education to their children and not shy away to talk about it.
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