Hello everyone , this is my first time participating on the #LadiesofHive weekly contest .
Most people don’t truly understand people, they misunderstand them. People easily misunderstand you and the way you live your life which would make you feel very bad sometimes, Being misunderstood is hard because most people will “judge a book by its cover”. This means they really don’t know much about the person before they make a conclusion and judgment on them. What makes this hard is everyone does it. Everybody is misunderstood in one way or another, but you may not know it. In life we will all experience this many times. People cannot know every little thing about you. In my journey through life one thing I have learnt to do is to ignore whatever they say and focus on me, myself and I. Focus on who I truly am. You know that situation where you are open about things, straightforward about issues and direct about matters especially in public places, where I work, gatherings, etc.
and people see it as disrespect.
I’m going to be telling us the story of my life, what I pass through and face all the time.
People misunderstand my directness and when I’m straightforward for disrespect, I find it meaningful to tell people my thoughts , how I feel about that particular issue at the moment and stimulate honest conversation. Being straightforward means speaking the truth without keeping any grudges. But everyone will love those who act and speak their language, who would only work according to their desires and those who would only impress them. But I am one who does not take that false long route of irrelevant points, who try to impress themselves and not the others. Yes obviously. I am considered rude. One of the best qualities in me as a person feel is being straightforward. Trying to live open and being direct and trying to impress one’s own self is the best thing to do on earth. I always try to just be straightforward and cut down people who are toxic.
They always consider me rude. Actually, my friends and close people understand me being blunt but people who are not that close misunderstand my bluntness and see it as disrespect. Months ago I had an experience with a person that is now close. After the day’s lectures I stopped by an eatery around school to get what to eat and drink and also rest a little bit because I was famished and exhausted. I went to the counter to make an order for what I was going to take. A man was right beside me trying to get his tray of food too because he had already ordered . As the man was about leaving he stepped on me and did not even care to apologize. He said it was a mistake. I went straight up to him, told him he had to apologize for what he did. I was being direct but people around were tried to hold me back and told me the man was not in any way my mate that it was not right to stand up to him, that me being direct was an act of disrespect to the man. I apologized to him but I still made him see reasons why he was supposed to be sorry for his actions.
Weeks later we met inside shuttle bus on my way home from class. I was shocked he greeted me and even offered to pay for my ride home. I asked why he helped and even greeted me first. He said he liked the way I was direct and straightforward. He told me he liked people that were like that and would love it if I could be on his team. I gladly accepted and was glad because with that reputation I don’t have to worry about getting caught up in a bunch of drama. And another thing about being straightforward and standing up for your values and what is right you gain a lot of respect.
Thank you for your time on my blog.
Best regards
@imaima