Before I decided to answer this question, I asked myself a lot of them. For example, I asked myself if I was really working towards being what I want to be and the answer was yes, I am.
This week's question is always on my mind honestly, in fact, some people here on Hive know this about me because I have told them that this is what I want and where I see myself.
Where would you like to be in five years? Where do you see yourself?
My very own house
For starters, I do see myself in my own house. What I haven't figured out yet is if it'll be my house or my husband's 😆. What a dilemma!
I do want to buy my own house though. Just something to call my own. My Mom wouldn't stay with me forever and the last thing I want is for her to live in a rented house when that time comes. But I have put a lot into consideration, she'll be lonely when I finally leave her to be with my husband, can't she just live with us?
Well, this is a river we'll cross when the time comes. I do have to discuss with him and know if it's something he'd welcome. But honestly, I personally feel it is not even up for discussion...
Working from home
Secondly, I see myself working from home and eventually being a full time housewife. This decision wasn't easy for me at all. I have always been big on work and career but the older I get, the more I see what truly matters.
People (especially my mates) think it is an unwise idea because the man would take me for granted. I do understand their logic as it is a current happening here in Nigeria. But I am done letting the story of other people dictate what I can or cannot do.
Yes, I want to be a full time housewife solely for my children. I want to be present in every moment of their lives because my mom was always present in mine. She never missed a moment of my life; the highs, lows, joy or pain. She was a part of it all.
She is a role model to me when it comes to parenting and I would like my children to feel my presence. This is a huge sacrifice for me. Honestly, I know I am still young but just thinking about it provokes that fear. The fear that the man (whoever he may be) might eventually take my stay-at-home for granted but love comes in different forms. I haven't met them yet but I do know that I want to be part of their daily lives.
Starting a foundation
The third is giving back. I believe that five years from now, other than being financially free, I would be helping others too. It is something I have yearned for a lot, especially when I see the less fortunate. Sure, I give to the orphanage when I can afford it - which is not always. I give to children I see hawking on the street but it is not enough.
I would start a foundation for children like that. I hate seeing them on the street. There is this particular grandma I always see with her granddaughter and it breaks my heart. I give what I have and it is not enough. But I do believe I would do more. Much more.
This is my response to the Ladies of Hive Contest #118. You can participate and answer any of the questions. Remember to follow the guidelines (both post & community).
