Good, good morning beautiful community of @LadiesOfHive 🌼 hope all the beautiful ladies who make life here are doing wonderfully well and that your week has been one of blessings ✨.
This week I'm back to talk a bit about the topics proposed by @joanstewart, super interesting and at the same time delicate topics. Although all the topics mentioned are of utmost importance today and most if not all are still taboo in our society (a society that excuse me but is a bit hypocritical), there is one that caught my attention and made a lot of noise in my head, this is nothing more and nothing less than "Intimate Partner Violence". Although I know different people who I can say have gone through different cases, I think this one I selected is where many (especially women) identify themselves.
Before I begin, I want to clarify that this type of situation has not happened to me and I pray to God that it will never happen to me, but I do know many close friends who have gone through this.
🔸 Intimate partner violence: Intimidation, threats, or verbal abuse. Expand on what you know or how you deal with this matter considering almost one-in-every-four homes appears to suffer silently.
Unfortunately, nowadays there are many cases of intimate partner violence and I want to emphasize that not only women go through it, but also men. However, it is more common that the cases are in women.
Since I was a little girl I could witness what this is like, since my father was a man who liked to go out a lot on weekends and at the same time cheated on my mother, so they always had strong arguments about both issues and once he even hit my mom.
Living this kind of scenes when you are a child leaves you marked forever, it is a bitter memory that I carry with me for many years and that is not erased from my mind, I think that is why I usually do everything to avoid arguments and all kinds of things that can cause fights, both in my partner and with everyone.
In addition, I have several friends who have gone through this type of situation, from a cheating husband who blames them and in addition to this physically abuses them, to those whose partner denigrates them, makes them feel less and lowers their self-esteem to the subsoil.
At least a few months ago a friend of mine went through a very ugly situation where her husband, with whom she has two children, was unfaithful and he blatantly blamed her saying that she was no longer doing anything to make him fall in love and that therefore she did not provoke him, even so he even hit her because she was claiming the infidelity. I do not understand how we get to allow this type of treatment.
I also know another girl, who was not physically abused but psychologically abused. Her partner kept telling her that she was ugly, that she didn't have the body she had before, that he didn't want to touch her and a lot of other horrible things that lowered her self-esteem so much that she thought about suicide, but thank God her daughter gave her the courage not to do it.
The saddest thing about most of the cases I know is that these women, despite what they have been through with these men and the horrible times they have put them through, are still in this unhealthy relationship that who knows how far they can go.
Personally I believe that to get out of this what we need is that from childhood we are taught self-love, that to love someone we must love ourselves 1000% first and that nothing is sufficient reason to be mistreated and much less no one is more or better than us to do so.
But not only we should be better educated about this and inculcate this kind of things, men should also be educated more and make them see that they are born of a woman and that the way they treat a partner shows how they were raised, the values they were taught. And I know very well that the way they treat their partners they would never want them to treat their daughters.
I hope that all those who go through this can get out of it and move forward being happy and independent ❤️
Nos vemos damas hermosas 🌼 un fuerte abrazo 🤗🫂
See you beautiful ladies 🌼 big hugs 🤗🫂
|| Todo el texto fue redactado por mi persona @chelle0891 || Llevado al inglés mediante DeepL traductor ||
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|| All text was written by myself @chelle0891 || Translated to English using DeepL translator ||
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