After reading the question of the week, I took some time to allow the question to sink into my mind. As I did so, I kept thinking about how there are times that no matter how many words I use to convey my message to others, those words fall on deaf ears.
So why does that happen? I call it selective hearing. People hear what they want to hear except when it causes them discomfort, such as when they don't agree with you or they are just not interested in the subject, or their predetermined opinion blocks any new ideas.
There are times when our own words cause the deafness in others.
No one likes a blabber mouth. Anyone who just keeps talking for the sake of hearing themselves, misses the whole point of communicating with speech. Conversation is meant to be shared with a back and forth of words and ideas. To have any meaningful communication , there must be an exchange of words, each person must get a chance to speak, while others listen.
It's quite often not the case, especially if there are emotions attached to the subject at hand. I think that's why smart people steer clear of religion and politics. Just too personal.
That being said, I find body language much more effective in certain instances. Here are a few examples:
Hearing about the birth of a baby, you smile, clap your hands, give a hug. Your message comes through loud and clear. You are happy for them.
Hearing that your friend is getting a divorce , you frown, squeeze their shoulder, or give a gentle rub on their back or cheek. Your friend knows you feel for them, trying to reassure them or just giving support.
Noticing your mate is in pain. A gentle touch can convey the message that you see their discomfort and wish it was better.
Observing a person with slumped shoulders who drags their feet, no bounce at all in their step. Your think, not good. Maybe they are lonely, depressed, have lost their mate. Just a smile or a tip of your hat may send the message that things can be brighter, if only for the moment.
Hearing someone shout, swear, slam a door , must be pissed about something. The simple act of turning your back and walking away sends a clear message that you don't want any part of that hot mess, whatever the reason for those actions.
Then there's the flip side, taking a walk with a person you love, reaching out for their hand as you stroll silently together sharing a sense of caring for each other.
Being in love, body language at it's best. A kiss, a hug, a giggle, a squeeze on the neck, a soft caress on the cheek, a playful pinch on the backside . All these actions convey one clear message. Intimacy.
Communication without a single word.