If you ask the world what being feminine or femininity means you will surely have different answers because people vary likewise their thoughts and beliefs.
Growing up, as a child I did not want to be seen as feminine. I suffered from a kind of identity crisis and some times I wished was born the opposite gender because the world view femininity as being weak and no one wants to be seen as weak and little me inclusive.
Playing with baby dolls, loving bright colors like pink were seen as being weak while been a lover action, preferring toy cars, and airplanes were seen as being strong and masculine.
And as a little girl, my toys were mainly baby dolls and toys that portray the definition of societal femininity. I did have a car toy, a gift from my Uncle and after he got spoilt I never got any car toys.
Looking back, I preferred both types of toys,(the ones projected as feminine and also the ones projected as masculine by the society). But growing up I have come to realize that there was nothing wrong with a girl child having both types of toys but my parents saw it to be in a way.
I have also come to the understanding that loving/having toy guns, toy airplane doesn't make a girl child less feminine neither does owning a baby doll makes her to be feminine because she is been brought into the world as feminine and what she loves and the thing she partakes in doesn't make her less when it comes to feminity.
My mum telling me about menstruation at the age of 9 as one of the qualities of being feminine made me suffer more from identity crisis the more.
Bleeding three to five days every month as a girl while the opposite gender got no bleeding was not fair to me.
And eventually when my period started at the age of 11 and the times I have menstrual cramps the more I wish I was a boy. And the months that my period skipped due to the normal irregularity in menstrual cycle teenagers face I was very happy to be free.
But looking back in time I realize I was just being a stupid girl, giving myself to societal belief instead of building and owning my own individuality which I started learning to do age the of 14.
I am not much of a follower of astrology but I believed there are somethings we can't take from sacred feminine and one of those things is the ability to nurture.
The ability to sow a seed, water it and, see it grow to a beautiful plant is one great power of feminity and this power also goes to humans and their younger ones. Nurturing a baby with love and compassion to a grown adult is something great about feminity that cannot be taken away and this ability to nurture exists in humans independent of their gender.
Unveiling emotions is also a great power of feminity.
You can hear words like these from society:
She is a woman that's why she can't hold her emotions - This word may sterns from when a woman is seen crying from a hurtful experience.
you are a man, be strong- The society will say this when a male is expressing his emotions either in tears or in other forms
And these veiling emotions have been perceived as being weak. But I will tell you the ability to show emotions means you are strong and being told otherwise is a lie. Because getting out of your vulnerability irrespective of what people will think or say is something that takes boldness and great emotional strength to do.
The weak ones are the ones who struggle with their existence and hide those emotions of love, anger, sadness and, pain within them cause they don't want to be perceived as weak or they are scared people may tramp on their emotions.
Showing emotions is showing the world your vulnerability but it doesn't mean you are vulnerable like the world defines it.
Irrespective of our genders, the gift of being emotional is something that the femininity within us brings.
As each day passes by the more I embrace my feminine energy and the prouder I get.