Each time I see contest by @queercoin, I know am going to learn something new that keep me motivated in life. Last week contest was on Authenticity. It was really interesting and had so many participants. I learn so much from that and it will remain in my heart that authencity is the best way of life.
This week came with another interesting topic on Validation, this word came from Hebrew word validity or vigor. When you are validated or you validate another person, it means you want to be sure if something or to accept something officially. So now let's get understand validation very well by taking the questions of this week topic.
Validation : What is it?
Validation means to have this feeling of belonging, accepted or understood. And you are been surported by others. People want validation because it gives them that feeling of self worth . They feel good and have confidence in themselves.
Why do you think people seek to feel validated?
This is because they want to feel belonging as I said earlier. They want to boost their self esteem. They also want to measure their worth with that if others. One funny thing about this is that, it is external validation. It is temporary because that person who is praising you now is doing that base on present situation. He or she may not validate you tomorrow. That is why I encourage you to go for internal validation.
What do you think is better to have external or internal validation?
It is better to have internal validation because it is more important than external validation. Knowing the meaning of validation help us to agree to that. External validation depends on other people's approval. While Internal validation is self approved.
You are happy not because people made you to be happy but happiness from the heart. Your self confidence is in you not on what people say about you. You are yourself, you can do things that is right without waiting for someone approval. When your validation is Internal, you can make wise decision, so it is the ultimate.
How do you think we can increase our internal validation?
There are many ways to increase internal validation Increasing internal validation. You can do this by practicing self-compassion, just like you have compassion for others. Work hard to always been kind to yourself and understandyourself. This will help you to forgive yourself when you make mistake or you did not reach your goal.
Let your goal be a realistic goal and focus on progress, this you can do, rather than focusing on perfection. No one is perfect, we all have limitations so know your limitations. Don't do more than your strength because you want to please others. Don't compete but learn. Lastly find joy and fulfillment in what you are doing presently. Do not rely on external validation. Make your self happy for whom you are.
In summary, I have been able to share with you what validation is, why people look for validation, the meaning of external and internal validation. Why internal validation is more important than external validation