The words of someone are sharper than a knife. The pain it causes will not be easily removed like having wounds in the skin. There is no physical contact but it can kill someone into despair. It's not a threat to someone's life but it will make someone afraid to go out. That's why to be careful of letting the words come from your mouth. We don't know how it affects others. We are not them because they are not us. Their suffering is different from yours. Don't think of placing your own understandings to others. We never know if it's not understandable to them.
It's normal for us to make fun of our friends. What is not normal when the mocking we used to do will be done to others. Think of it that if it's not your friends it's hard for them to understand that it's just a joke. They are not used to it and perhaps they don't want it. Who else does want to have fun when they have no idea that it's just to be fun. It's better to cut the sharpness of our words before hitting them on others. If the one you are just being mocked will not laugh and only the other people who laugh. That's not a joke at all, it can be considered bullying.
Don't say that "it's just a joke, don't take it seriously." For you maybe but how about the effects on other people? Did you consider figuring out how will it be for someone? Let's say you just said to someone - hey, you have an ugly bag? Then you just smiled immediately and added - just a joke. It is that simple to understand that if you said it's just a joke no bad intentions being shredded into it? What if that bag has so much value to that person? What if that bag was given to his/her dead mother? That's why he keeps using it because he/she might miss her mother. I mean did you ever think of understanding the story behind it?
For sure you don't because what's important to you is to make yourself laugh or the others. That's an insensitive way of bragging about your joy to others. We can be happy without hurting other people. We can both happy by not making someone upset because of our words. There are many ways how not to hurt someone but instead letting them join the fun. It's nice to smile when other people are smiling and not frowning. What about if what you did to others will be done by someone to you? Do you think it will be tolerable to you because you are used to it since you already knew it was a joke?
Be mindful of the feelings of others. Understand first if it can be acceptable or not. Don't just say words randomly to avoid hurtful meaning. Make sure you do know already how it will be to others if it's nice or not. Consider thinking about how will it affects you for you to refrain from letting it out. If you want some love you should show love as well. Remember, don't do it to others if you don't want others to do it to you.
Thank you for reading
d' dreamboy,
@mrnightmare89