African Early Childhood programming Often gets in the way of what you want

It is believe that in every Individual, there's a tiny seed of "You" that was predetermined you become. Our upbringing especially as Africans may have buried this seed in response to our parents and other elderly role models as we grew up. We all started out as a baby, with that instinct of knowing whatever we want, this we demonstrated with a sad countenance or rejected whatever we felt we did not want. It was much easier expressing our need and desire . We cried without holding back until we got what we wanted. But growing up in the African home changed our perspectives toward pushing forward for our desire.
Someone started yelling.
Don't touch that!
You should be ashamed of yourself
Money doesn't grow on trees
Stop doing what you're doing and come do what I want you to do

Sometimes you get a slap, telling you why you shouldn't have attempt an action. After many years of these kinds of sanction, most of us eventually lost touch with our needs and desires and somehow got stuck trying to figure out what others want us to do. Gradually , we start developing attitudes that helps us stand in a better change of getting their approval. This makes us do lot of things we don't want to do but that please a lot of other people. We start taking courses to please our parents, we get espoused to please our mother, we start chasing job instead of building our own desire. In the name of been sensitive, we end up becoming numb to our own desires.

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This pursuit to please our parent and adult makes most youth confused about what they really want to become. You get the "I don't know" response when they're asked what they want to become. To reclaim this lost vibes or to reconnect with your real passion without fear and shame, start on the small level of honouring your preference in every situation. No matter how small or large you believe your choices are, don't think of them as petty, because they hold my h meaning to you than what they society believes. Stop saying "I don't know, I don't care. Act like you have a preference and ask yourself " if I did know, what would it be"! Or "if I did care , which would I prefer".

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