Hello everyone, I'm back with another most debated topic which has been going on for years and that is physical discipline. So, most of the I've seen in my surroundings, older people who are millennial, they say that children of nowadays has become disrespectful and they believe it's because many parents has stopped hitting their child or giving corporal punishment. On the other hand few people of Gen Z believes that hitting children will only create a traumatizing childhood for a child.
I personally think that hitting anyone should not be allowed even if it's a child. Physical punishment may stop a kid from doing something but the duration might be short. It will create fear and curiosity in them. It will not completely truly teach them how to behave in a good way. They might do it again out of curiosity because they don't know the reason why they were being hit as they are not taught.
I grew in a family where hitting childrens was never allowed. Whenever, I drew on a wall or was misbehaving they taught me with calmness, they taught me how to control my intrusive thoughta. They only corrected me by explaining my mistakes so that I could acknowledge and take the responsibility. They did not try to discipline by being physical instead they had set some rules for me, some ethics which I should follow. These helped understand what was right and wrong.
My parents truly had patience for handling me so well. Even if their life was not going well they never shifted the anger on me. In recent time I'm an independent girl who knows how to talk with confidence and always stood against the wrong things. I am free to make my decisions. My parents never said "We allowed you," like they never used such words for me. They always said "It's your life and your choice, just stay happy," for that reason I do what I like but never misused their trust. To be honest, what I feel for my parents is respect and love not fear.
On the other hand, I have few friends who were physically punished since childhood. Whenever, they talk about how their parents used to hit them it gave me goosebumps, they talk about it casually as being hit is something normal.
So, they never questioned it because they grew up believing that parents punishing means they loves their kids more, that's why they hit their kids for their own betterment. Like it's the only way parents could correct their children. And, I asked them if they didn't think that their parents physically harmed them because they were kids and can not defend. My friends were smiling and said, "No, it's parents love. That's how they are."
However, I noticed that each one of them was always afraid of making any kind of small decisions like they always needed their parents permission to do something. Even if it's a simple decisions, they would get nervous because they always had to worry about making their parents angry. Instead of building confidence such parents has made their kids fearful and dependent on them. Like they always need approval to go out, even if it's a boy. Usually girls has such restrictions in Bangladesh but the boys also has such restriction because they normalized it.
These kids when they will grow up, most of them will become violence towards their life partner. Like they would hit their partner and think of it as love. While physical punishment might make someone obedience for a short time but it does not always build a good character. Like these kids are being obedient so they do not get hit not because they did wrong thing and realized they should not do it. So basically they will end up neglecting their mistakes. And that's not a good habit.
So, I believe discipline is very important, like there should be rules and guidance but no hitting. And I believe humanity has not lost discipline, I think society has found a new way to raise children.
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