Children, they say, are a heritage of God, and they're the joy of every parent. It's always adorable and a delight to have them around, and one of our duties as parents is to provide them with love, support, and guidance, as well as instil morals, beliefs, values, and respect so they can develop in the best way possible. During our course of raising and instilling these values, it's understandable that not all might be perfect or according to the child's taste, and that brings us to the big question of whether we'll welcome the idea of such a child having a different lifestyle that total varies from the ones we raise them. That's somewhat complicated, and today I'll be sharing my perspective on handling this as a parent towards my child.
One thing about us as parents is that we've always envisioned the idea of our children following all our paths and guidance to the end, as we believe it's the best way for them. However, that isn't always the case. As we've seen children who, when grown, chose a different path in different aspects of their lives that differed from what they were taught by their parents, this can be very hard for a parent to take in. But what society expected of us was to accept their stand and support them in their new path, and this leaves me with the question of whether that's even ideal.
Although, understandably, we've all got free will to chase our dreams, career path, religion, culture, gender, and way of life, one thing I've come to realize through the years is that a child will always be a child to his or her parents regardless of how old they grow, and such parents would want to do everything possible to make sure they follow the right path we've placed them in because we felt it's the best for them.
Personally, as a parent, if my child grows up and chooses a different path, depending on what aspects it's, at first I'd be shocked, disappointed, and confused, but when I take a critical look into the aspects such entails, I can agree with their stand and even support them in their new-found way of life. But if it's a path I thoroughly scrutinize and feel it's bad, I'll not accept such from them and would do everything within my power to make them change or disown such a child if they refuse to change.
Now, before you use that statement to judge me as a terrible parent, I'll appreciate you kindly helping me out by reading through my reasons before you cast the stone. So, like I said, I'd agree with their stand in some aspects, and such could be in areas of our culture. Such a child switching to another culture won't be entirely bad for me to take in; if the new culture is also decent and promotes what's morally upright, then I'll joyfully support the child's new-found part.
But in a situation where such changes involve a change of gender, sexual status, such as gay or lesbian, or religion, then I'd go to the end of the earth to make sure they come back to the path I've shown them because I know it's the best way for them, and letting such a child proceed with their opinion is like denting the reputation of my lineage and generations to come.
There's nothing that would make me watch my child turn gay or lesbian, and I'd support such; in my culture, that's wrong; in my religion, it's prohibited, In my country, it's illegal, and to me, it's morally insensible, so seeing a child I tried all I could to raise in the right way delve into such, I won't be happy. Such makes me feel like a failure as a parent, and if my child fails to take heed to my opinion, then I've got no choice but to disown them and have them have nothing to do with my family going forward.
It's my take, and it's how I see life, and while I can be lenient in some aspects and agree with their perspective, the same wouldn't be the case when it comes to gender transition, religion, and sexual preferences that differ from male and female, so that's about it, and I hope my child won't do such as they grow, because though I want to them to have their free will, still there are some aspects, like the ones I listed, that I won't support or give room for them to change if they want to continue to be addressed as a child.
That's about it for today. I hope you enjoyed the read. Have a wonderful day and stay blessed.
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