Hello friends of this community; If you feel like no one listens to you, like no one takes you seriously, or sees you as a responsible adult with credibility, with authority, maybe people don't see you as someone who can contribute interesting things, but rather as an ignored and undervalued figure.

We want to be seen as relevant people, someone worth talking to. I am going to tell you some things that may make you uncomfortable, but I guarantee that they work and will help you evolve if you put them into practice in a conscious and mature way; You have two paths or you can behave in your own way, complaining and not accepting changes, or you can take this advice with maturity, accept that you need to evolve, work on it and conquer the position you want, be someone trustworthy, impose your limits, express your opinions so that others respect you and listen to you as an authority and an interesting person. A pleasant image is important, but it is of no use if when you open your mouth you are rude, boring, unpleasant, the image attracts of course, but it is your communication that convinces and keeps people by your side, the following words will suit you To be useful whether you like it or not, whether it hurts or not, first let's avoid these important mistakes that can ruin your image and communication and make you seem unpleasant and uninteresting.

In good communication, you should avoid excessive diminutives, although there are times and even cultures where a diminutive adds Charm when used excessively, it infantilizes your communication and makes you seem less serious. So don't say "little job", don't say "little thing", "little advice" talk confidently about your content, about your projects, your ideas and express them as if it were one of your passions.

Do not speak with your head down, or inwardly, I know that there are very shy people who are ashamed and do not know how to express themselves, but that is precisely why you should see this as something that you need to improve. If you want people to listen to you, pay attention to you and trust you when communicating, you must train these types of skills, everything I am expressing here is trainable, if you are a person who cannot even look in the eyes, keep your head standing upright, chest open, you will automatically convey great confidence in your speech. Then obviously no one will take you seriously, because you don't do it yourself, all of the above would convey a lot of insecurity; To project confidence and be taken seriously the easiest, most basic and essential thing is to improve your posture and the way you speak, so practice keeping your head up, shoulders back, chest open while you speak and this will not only improve the perception that others have of you, but it will also increase your own self-confidence.

Insecurity is clearly perceived when you fill your sentences with fillers, when you fill in spaces where it is not necessary, the more you train the ability to synthesize your ideas into shorter and more objective sentences, the better your communication will be, the more you fill in with unnecessary information, the more insecurity you will transmit. and the more your message, ideas, and people's attention will be dispersed, in addition to avoiding the vices of language, such as “in plan”, “that is”, “you know”, “so”. Avoid excess swear words, as well as fillers, this can make your communication seem childish or immature, and although they may be acceptable in certain contexts, it is always better to moderate swear words especially in professional situations, much cleaner language, much More care greatly improves the quality of your interactions and, above all, allows your message to be more impactful so that the ideas you want to convey arrive with greater clarity and this, you will also have realized, flows into the environment and contributes to creating a much more positive environment where All people feel more at ease, more comfortable and more respected.

Don't think too much, pay attention not to think too much to say the same thing, you know that person who talks for hours to end up saying the same thing, to repeat the same thing over and over again like a typical politician; If you don't want to repeat unnecessary things, be direct. Don't be afraid to be objective, to be practical when speaking, this is something I am working on, not trying to make the people around me understand exactly what is going on in my head, there are times when I try so hard for people to understand The same thing I understand in my head, that they end up rambling, get tired and stop paying attention to my message. So don't be afraid to be objective and practical when speaking, take some time to think about the ideas of your message, to better formulate your message in a sentence before expressing it. It is important to remember that the language we use says a lot about us, words have power and choosing them carefully can make a big difference in the impression we leave on others, therefore, make a conscious effort to moderate your use and opt for a A richer, more varied vocabulary can have a very positive impact on your life, both professional and personal, so grow.