You've already expressed those concerns to others and how you feel about it. They've already told you their actions were not targeting your family or intended to be disrespectful.

So let's focus on now, and moving forward. Being feisty is normal but try to calm yourself and not be the one starting the next round of arguments.

My intention is to help smooth things out but I can't do that without your participation.

I can also walk away if you'd prefer that.