Certain ways of communicating alienate us from our natural state of compassion, one of these types of communication are Moralistic Judgements.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. For as you judge others, so you will yourselves be
judged . . .
—Holy Bible, Matthew 7:1
Moralistic judgments mean implying wrongness or badness on the part of people who don’t act in harmony with our values.
Such judgments are reflected in the language such as, “The problem with you is that you’re too selfish.” “She’s lazy.” “They’re prejudiced.” “It’s inappropriate.” Blame, insults, put-downs, labels, criticism, comparisons, and diagnoses are all forms of judgment.
In the world of judgments, our concern centers on WHO “IS” WHAT.
The Sufi poet Rumi once wrote,
Classifying and judging people promote violence. Why? Because we don't see another person as a human. We see them as a label. And if we stop seeing another person as human, we lose our capacity to connect with them. If the label doesn't match our values and we are not seeing another person as human, there are high chances that we will do anything in our capacity to work things in our way. Which might be harmgul to others too.
-Inspired by the work of Marshall B Rosenberg.
