You captured it exactly, @marlyncabrera. One can remain under that person's spell for many years, and even a lifetime. It tears down self-esteem, personal strength and conviction, and even the ability to think clearly. I'm always dismayed when people say things about battered women like, "Why don't they just leave?" It's so much more complex than anyone can imagine if they haven't been there. Thank you for stopping by and commiserating!