Exactly. At some point, you're no longer seeking guidance, you're outsourcing your own judgment.

Absolutely. Seeking counsel isn't the problem. The problem starts when someone's opinion becomes more important than communication between the couple themselves

So I find it strange when someone automatically assumes their pastor understands their marriage better than the person they're married to.

And sometimes the pastor only knows the version of you that you bring to church, while your spouse sees you at your best and worst

But isn't that where it becomes problematic? Your pastor may guide you spiritually, but your spouse is the person actually sharing your life with you

That is why I said talk it out with them. Have a deep conversation about it

I don't easily get mad at people, but when I do.... it's gone You might not hear from me again, not that we are fighting but I just love my peace

Absolutely 💯 Before it turns to stories that touches

Yes! I don't seems to understand. Kindly make me understand

Alright! I think I understand that 😂

I see

I guess

And that is quite unfortunate They should get to know someone before giving a final conclusion

Exactly. Some people will always want you to be like then, put mouth in everything and when you don't, the tag you as Mr pride boy. MPB

Yes, it's good to talk about everything. And in the process of courting, the other person still wants a different lifestyle even though they love eachother, doesn't that means incompatibility?

But in the long run, won't it turn to resentment if the other person isn't compromising?

You are absolutely right. I like the way you put this

nobody can make me happy Wonderful 😂😂

Really?

Does that means it's a good compromise if the other see a value in it but you don't?