Are they hard?
I don't think so. At least, I don't think they need be.

Don't you think that this slightly contradicts what you said in one of your previous posts?

No one notices what I do.
Everyone notices what I don't do.

You are in a relationship that has lasted for quite long. Yet is seems that despite that your efforts are often not acknowledged. Accepting that sounds like a compromise as well. So at least some parts of relationships must be quite hard/ challenging.😛