Often we feel there is something wrong with us because we are single. Is there something wrong with us? Are we the reason for being single?
Being single is not a sickness… so no there is nothing wrong with you. Only thing that could be wrong with you is that you are lonely. Are you the reason why you are single? Yes and no, ok let us put statistics, there are a lot of single people out there.
This is not a bad thing, it is only increasing your chances of meeting someone.
The list
Some of us have this list of things that we want in another person. My comments and thoughts on this… STOP IT RIGHT NOW, go burn that list immediately. If you are looking for that perfect person out there and you find that person, well what makes you think that perfect person wants to date you?
When burning this list, I am not implying that you go out with “trash”. No all I am saying is don’t disqualify a person if they are not the complete match to this list of yours.
Generally people seem to make friends, date and marry the same person as themselves (based on choices). For example a moral person is not going to be friends with those who love to spread “love” around to everyone.
This is not always the case, but if you are looking for a specific person then be the person you are looking for. No don’t be fake, change yourself to fit who you looking for.
How to be Single
Well first you have to accept the fact that you are going to feel lonely when you single. There is pain in being single, those lonely nights lying in bed till 3am… I know them, we will all get them at one point in our lives.
Preparation is the best way to help you through this dark time. Once you find yourself feeling lonely.
Do something fun, get a new hobby, do something you enjoy. This way you can find someone in these places that will enjoy doing these things with you. If you don’t find a person well your happiness will definitely improve.
You single own it, live it, be it and enjoy the time alone as often we could do with some alone time to fix things and find yourself again. Look at the bright side of things you only going to be single for a few years at max.
You will live for many years (80 years) more or less. So make the most of this time you have been given to be alone.