The most common female sexual complexes and how to cope with them!
The Oedipus complex in girls corresponds to the Electra Complex. It can be called an analogue of the Oedipus complex in boys. But its meaning and manifestation are still different from the latter.
If we take the classical psychoanalysis of Freud, the Austrian psychoanalyst said that girls, along with boys, have a great affection for their mother. And later there is a desire to the father on the basis of "penis envy". That is, the girl subconsciously feels inferior and disadvantaged due to the lack of a male genital organ. And its integrity she "sees" only through intimate contact with father. Here the mother is perceived as the main competitor and there is jealousy about her father. In addition, the mother is unconsciously perceived by the daughter as a source of inferiority accusations.
Successful overcoming of the Oedipus complex in women is possible with the "correct" positioning of the role of men in the family by the girl's mother. For the daughter, the father is the standard of male strength, protection, reliability and confidence, courage. If for some reason the father in the family plays a secondary role and belittled his importance, the daughter may have a complex constant search for a life partner, behind which you can hide as "behind a stone wall."
Hence the problem of sexual relations in the new family. Unwillingness to grow up and inability to maintain a Mature partnership with her husband leads to a weakening of sexual desire in a woman, or both partners. Their interaction is perceived as kindred, not erotic-sexual.
Sexual therapy can be "growing up" the client to the level of an independent, independent woman. To translate the role of wife-daughter into the role of wife-lover, partner. To restore the " age " balance in the pair, to teach the client to take the initiative, to be responsible for their feelings of intimacy, to clearly understand and communicate their desires to the partner, to follow their desires. Independent behavior in sexual life goes to other areas, changing the overall behavior of women.
The degree of manifestation of the Electra complex can be different, from weak to stronger, depending on the forming factors, the individual perception of the growing woman's family situation.
Militant, strong and brave. This woman wants to be a worthy competitor to men, to keep them company in the fight for the title of "her boyfriend".
According to the psychoanalytic concept, "legs grow" all out of the same"penis envy". My penis has not grown – so I'm defective. Hence the rejection of yourself as a woman and nurture qualities that are competitive with men.
The problem is that such a woman can hardly become a partner to any man, it is easier to be a "friend", "friend". There is an awareness that I am a woman, but along with a hard rejection and rejection of it.
Relationships with men don't add up. In sex, such a woman can be a little despotic and aggressive. I think I can attract a man without initiative. Which for Diana will subsequently be boring and uninteresting in bed.
Therapy can be built by awakening in a woman the pleasure of familiarity with the bodily manifestations of femininity, sensations from a variety of touches and stimulation of erogenous zones and genitals. "Softening" of emotional coldness towards both men and women. The return of the Self, because the true, deep feeling in this complex is positioning yourself as a woman.
The woman with this complex "fan" from his son has him exaggerated affection, until the mad desire incestuous relationship with him.
Jocasta can grow out of a woman stuck in the infantile stages of development due to Psychotrauma, for example. Not being able to receive various pleasures of Mature sexuality, the woman can psychologically remain at the level of childishness, the teenage period... And on this basis it is easier to find a "common language" with boys, young men. This leads to an affair with the son or his peers, as it is more socially acceptable.
Sexual therapy can be aimed at revealing various options for feeling like a woman, harmonious and interesting to herself and men of her age. This will "let go" of his son in his personal life and independent travel.
Such a woman tends to dream much more than to do. Fascinated and raised on romance novels, she draws in her imagination the ideal of a man, immaculate, without flaws, too unreal and artificial. The problem is that in life Alice can not find anyone like the image of their dreams. And feels constantly frustrated.
Relationships with men may not be at all for a long time.
One of the reasons may be the lack of a real male image on which our heroine could rely. Or lack of communication with the father, his detachment from the upbringing of his daughter. Or a tyrannical and cruel father who is sharply rejected as a possible image of a future partner.
In therapy you can use body techniques to ground. Cause repressed aggression on the father, restoring justice and integrity of the image of him.
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